Defining moments are those times in life when a shift occurs that changes the direction of your life, and one of my most memorable defining moments occurred for me on 6 September 1997. That day began under a cloak of sadness. Princess Diana, who was so loved around the world, was to be buried that day, and I learnt that Mother Theresa, had quietly passed from this world to the next.
For me though that day started with the hope that I was finally going to get some direction that would get my life back on track. It ended full of joy after attending my first Wayne Dyer seminar entitled Manifest Your Destiny. I had read a couple of Wayne’s books but up until that day I had never been to a live event. I was fortunate though to attend many of Wayne’s talks after this before his passing.
Up until that time in my life most people would have described me as successful, I had owned a successful business, been a best-selling author, professional speaker and regularly featured in the media but that was in the past. I was stuck in a rough patch. I had lost money in business and I was struggling financially even working part-time as a bookkeeper just to make ends meet, which was a real blow to my self esteem. I didn’t know who I was. What I believed in. Or, even what I wanted. I had reached an all-time low in my life.
Wayne Dyer walked on the stage and asked for a minute’s silence to remember Princess Diana and Mother Theresa. I sent up a silent prayer, asking for direction and peace. My prayer was answered.
One of my strongest memories of that day was Wayne standing on stage and asking us to imagine an invisible line. On one side of that line was happiness, love and everything we wanted and on the other side was everything we didn’t want. Throughout the day as he wanted to emphasise a particular point Wayne would step to either side of the line. One story that has stuck with me is when Wayne talked about buying things we thought were ugly. He said, “Imagine walking into a store and seeing an ugly rug and saying ‘that’s the ugliest rug I’ve ever seen’’, I’ll have one’. He explained that’s what we do over and over again when we choose to dwell on the things we don’t want in our lives.
There is intellectual knowledge and there is heart knowledge. I had read all the books, even taught some of the principles that Wayne taught that day, but it hadn’t seeped through to my heart, the level at which we accept something whole-heartedly as I did that day. Sometimes we just need to get to a low point so that we can really listen and understand the guidance that is all around us.
When we live from the mind we often have one foot in either camp, just in case we are wrong. We may act as if we believe sometimes, then we talk to friends and allow doubt to seep in and we step back over the line. We say we want one thing, but we don’t do anything to make our dreams a reality. Every time we procrastinate, doubt ourselves, complain or talk about our problems we buy the ugly rug.
What I learnt that day is to create a life you love takes 100% commitment. You need to choose who is in charge of your life, is it you or is it the people around you? Are you going to allow someone else’s opinion to be in charge of your life? Are you going to allow fear and doubt to rule? All you have to do is ask yourself where those choices are taking you.
To experience the massive shift that I did that day you need to trust your heart, to step into the unknown knowing that life is always on your side and wants you to have your heart’s desires. You need to act as if you trust even when you don’t know how.
I walked out of that seminar inspired, ordered the audio series and listened to it every single day, acting on everything I learnt from the seminar and implementing some of my own strategies as well. I did the meditation Wayne recommended every day. In the 12 months following that seminar I quadrupled my income without even trying. It started when I received a call from a complete stranger asking me if I would be interested in writing a book for his client. Writing books on money was easy for me so I accepted. When I told my accountant how this opportunity had turned up out of the blue he mentioned a client who was doing something similar and looking for some help, he asked if he could pass my contact details to him. His client called me and I wrote two books for him as well. A couple of months later I was in a local shopping centre when I ran into the publicist who, who had done the publicity for my books when she worked for Random House, following that meeting and unknown to me, she put my name forward and they contacted me about adapting Susie Orman’s books on money for the Australian market.
That work, while enjoyable, wasn’t what I wanted to do long term, tit was a stepping stone that supported me to let go of self-doubt.
Nine months after that seminar I started working as a life coach. A year after that I started my life coach training school. Since that time I’ve discovered a love of writing courses. I feel as if I was born to teach. None of this would have happened if I had continued to listen to my self doubt. I needed to listen to and trust my heart. And the biggest lesson I discovered is that your heart will never lead you astray.
Wayne Dyers’s Meditations for Manifesting was one I listened to daily during this time you can find it on YouTube.