“When you are joyful, when you say ‘yes’ to life and have fun and project positivity all around you, you become a sun in the centre of every constellation, and people want to be near you.”
Jack Murnighan & Maura Kelly
from Much Ado About Loving 

I had the great pleasure of hearing Anita Morjani speak at the Wayne Dyer seminar in Sydney and she has an amazing story to tell.

While quite young, I think she was in her thirties, Anita discovered she had cancer and after fighting the disease for four years she was at death’s door.  When she slipped into a coma she weighed 39kgs, her hair had fallen out, she had huge open sores over her body, her lungs were filled with fluid and her organs stopped working.  The doctors told her family that death was imminent that there was nothing more they could do.

In another dimension Anita was able to see and hear everything that was happening to her body.  Even though the doctor was a long way away from her body when he talked to her husband she knew exactly what he said.  In this dimension she felt such bliss and pure love that she didn’t want to return, but her father (also deceased) told her she needed to go back, but it was her choice.  Anita said it wasn’t an easy choice as she didn’t want to go back to all of that physical pain but she also knew that if she did return the cancer would be gone.  She chose to return.  It was at this point that Anita stunned her doctors by coming out of her coma.  Within four days all of her organs were working perfectly and all tubes were removed from her body.  Within four weeks all signs of cancer and tumours were gone from her body.That was in 2006.

People ask Anita why she got sick and her response is, ‘Fear’.  Anita’s message is, “We don’t need to work at being loving towards others.  Instead, we just have to be true to ourselves, and we become instruments of loving energy, which touches everyone we come into contact with.

“Being love also means being aware of the importance of nurturing my own soul, taking care of my own needs, and not putting myself last all the time.  This allows me to be true to myself at all times and to treat myself with total respect and kindness.”

Being in Anita’s presence was for me one of those life changing moments, her energy is simply magnificent and I felt my whole body tingle.

Give yourself a treat and buy Anita’s book and devour every word.  It’s so full of wisdom and her message is that we are magnificent exactly as we are.

At the beginning of each year I set a personal theme for the year, this year is the year of loving me and I hope some of you will join me in really learning to love yourself.

One of the most important things you can do is listen to your life.  What are the messages that you are getting from the people around you? What challenges are you experiencing?  What are you feeling?  Your answers to these questions tell you what you need to do to love yourself and improve the quality of your life.

On the recent Hay House cruise I became aware of how much I focused on how hurt I often feel.  I have someone in my life who is brusque and critical who says things without realising the impact her words have upon others.  So I tossed that all of my hurt feelings into the ocean and every time I feel criticised, put down or upset by someone else’s behaviour I remind myself that I love me and that’s all that matters.

I also ate the most wonderful food on the cruise and gained weight.  In fact last year I slipped on my weight loss program and although I haven’t gained it all back I haven’t lost any more either.  So as a way of loving me today I started a 2 week raw food diet.  Now I must admit this is challenging.  Breakfast was a juice of spinach, celery, lemon, ginger and a few other goodies.  Now this is not my idea of a lovely breakfast but I so want to achieve my ideal weight, eliminate the inflammation in my body and achieve optimum health, I am prepared to learn to like it.  For a few weeks last year I ate 2 raw meals and day and drank tons of water and felt fabulous for it.

Both of my girls have very good jobs and earn really good salaries yet I still buy them things and do without myself.  So this year I’ve committed to breaking that pattern by not spending any money on them apart from presents for birthdays and Christmas.  It’s going to be strange to only look after me as I’ve never done it in my entire adult life.  However, this doesn’t mean that I am going to be selfish as I’ll still continue with my volunteer work and giving where I can.

Loving me means opening my heart and trusting.  I believe there is a whole universe of love waiting for us and sometimes we don’t allow that love in because we are so programmed to look for it outside of ourselves.  When we learn to love ourselves we allow all the good that we deserve into our lives.

If you criticise people who have what you want you will shut the door to your desires.